Brian's Introduction

By Brian Walsh (Founder & CEO of Entrepreneur.co.za)

As much as we may like to try, we cannot really separate our personal lives from our endeavors as an entrepreneur. (This is discussed in more detail in the guide Entrepreneurship – A Way of Life.) I am married with three children, and I have come across many challenges with regards to how my wife and children relate to my business, and my working so hard so much of the time. I, of course, expect them to understand because after all, I am bringing in the money which affords them the lifestyle they live. In reality though, this is not right. Family is an essential part of achieving fulfillment and success in life, and it is not fair to just expect them to understand. Sometimes they just want a husband or a dad, not an entrepreneur! Too often I have seen families fall apart because one or both parents have their own businesses.

Stress is a big factor in the personal challenges that entrepreneurship can involve – this often relates to periods where you are not doing so well. Often, we may take our frustrations out on the children, which becomes apparent in our behaviour towards them. We need to make more effort. When things are tough, be open and honest, even with young children. Love is more important than money, especially to them.  The by-product of a struggling entrepreneur is often stress and pre-occupation which can easily be interpreted by your loved ones as a lack of love.

Don’t sacrifice your relationships with your spouse and children for your business. It is something you may well live to regret. Let them participate in your endeavours, and even help make decisions. Never stop showing them love, no matter how tough it gets.

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